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Are you a procrastinator?
Do you delay doing the inevitable? Do you put off doing something for tomorrow when you can very well do them all today? Have you asked yourself why you are like that?
These are the hallmarks of a true blue procrastinator. In a practical sense, procrastinating is a waste of precious energy and time.
If you have any of the following attitudes and beliefs, it is high time you check yourself for personal rehabilitation and start changing those negative thoughts to positive ones.
Feelings of hopelessness
Feeling hopeless about a situation is a clear motivation for procrastinators to procrastinate. Either because they feel that the past is better and the future is bleak and doing something today is futile, a hopeless situation is enough an excuse for them to not do anything at all.
For procrastinators, doing anything is not worth anything. And doing something does not count at all.
The young and the helpless
Procrastinators are so convinced that their moods are caused by someone, anyone or something. Or simply, everything and anything that is outside of themselves. They believe that their disposition is so beyond their control and that whatever actions or non-action they take is caused by an entity – visible or invisible that is external. They end up blaming the heavens, other people or fate for the misery they perceive they are in.
It is so overwhelming!
Those who procrastinate have the tendency to do the following: when assigned to complete a certain task, they will – as much as possible – magnify all the little (imagined or unimagined) problems they will encounter until actually doing the task becomes so overwhelming and difficult in their minds that their last recourse is to not do anything at all.
Procrastinators also try to do a lot in one get-up-and-go attitude instead of breaking up the chores into simple bite-size little pieces. Imagine if you would, try eating a whole steak and try to swallow everything in just one bite. Doing such is so unimaginably illogical and does not make any sense at all. It is also physiologically impossible and complex.
Jumping immediately to assumptions
Procrastinators also have a great excuse to not do anything or in delaying doing something. They have this ingrained habit that whatever it is they do is not enough and will never be enough to make them feel any better. This is because they have the tendency to engage themselves in negative thoughts and attitudes. Personal remarks like “I cannot,” “I could, but” is their constant mantra.
They believe to not believe in themselves
Procrastinators also are good in labeling themselves into something they so firmly believe they are. The real person could range from anything as being “lazy,” “good for nothing,” etc. They believe that these labels are the real them and that they are unable to do anything about it. They believe they have no personal power to change themselves for the better so they do not expect a lot, or nothing at all from themselves.
The destination is worse than the journey
There are those who procrastinate and could not complete a task because they think that the end result of whatever it is they are to do is not worth the effort they are to put in the task. They think immediately of the immediate future of which they have no control over without taking into consideration the immediate present which they have the capacity to change and influence according to their will as much as it is possible.
The journey of getting there does not matter since the destination – wherever it is – will lead to nowhere, at least that is what they want to think.
Everything should be perfect
Procrastinators who have this kind of attitude makes them easily vulnerable to the opinions of others. Perfectionists have also become sensitive to what others think of them. The desire to protect themselves from these “harsh” criticisms causes them to go on the defensive and strive to be perfect. Eventually, being perfect is ultimately tiring since it is striving to achieve the unachievable. No one is perfect after all. And since doing nothing is better than doing something less than perfectly, procrastinators think that it is best to really do nothing at all.
All in all, perfection is an ideal that when achieved – if ever it is achievable – will be pointless. Real perfection only exists when flaws, mistakes, imperfections are present and the capacity to accept all these no matter what is the true mark of an honest accomplishment.